Starting Here

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I consider today, being the first Monday of 2014 and my first day back in my apartment in NYC, to be the start of my New Year.  (I’ve always favored a “soft opening,” just like a trendy new bar.  New Year’s Day is for lying around and relaxing, not setting goals and meeting deadlines.)

I’ve been writing this blog for over a year now, and I decided to take a look back at one of the first posts I ever wrote, the “Rules I Live By” post.  I wrote this list intending to read it every day, to reinforce the choices I wanted to make in order to be the person I wanted to be.

 So I read it.

 I thought some of it was still so great.

I thought some of it sounded like somebody else’s ideas and words.  Not only have I found my voice on this forum in the last year, but there were items that felt strained, trying to be determined and accomplished and all that.

I didn’t read this each and every day of 2013, and I don’t find it matters much.  A lot of these ideas and principles stayed with me regardless.

I think what I learned the most from last year was to trust myself, my instincts and my intuition.  To trust in my innate, genetically bred (thanks Dad!) drive to succeed and excel.  To trust that the work I do will be enough.  And if something I love falls by the wayside for a little while, to trust that I will come back around to it eventually, if it continues to be important to me.  I don’t need to impose rules to make me feel guilty about life’s ebbs and flows.  I don’t want to live the same day 365 times a year.

So for your consideration, here is a revised “Intentions I Live By”

Intentions I Live By

1.       It’s not about you.

          It doesn’t matter.

          It’s not about you.

2.       Breathe.

3.       Follow your heart.

4.       Respond instead of react. 

5.       Look for what inspires you about everyone. 

6.       Act with honesty and love.

7.       Discipline and compassion.

8.       Let yourself move when you want to move.  Rest when you need to rest.

9.       Don’t strategize. Prioritize. 

10.     Explore your boundaries.

11.     Fake it till you make it.

12.     Follow the algorithm. Let go of the outcome.

13.     Be in the moment. Stay here,

14.     Stop wanting from the world, and start sharing with the world.

15.     Right thought, right speech, right action.  In our minds, on our lips, and in our hearts.

 Annnnd because I work for a law office, and this is what we do, here is a compared version so you can see the changes I’ve made.  A little simpler, a little sweeter.

1.       It’s not about you.

          It doesn’t matter.

          It’s not about you.

 2.       Breathe. Breathe. Breathe.

  .       I focus on my goals rather than my impulses.

3.       Follow your heart.

4.       I choose decisions and responses         Respond instead of judgments and reactions.react.

5.       I surround myself with people who inspire me to become a better person.         Look for what inspires you about everyone. 

6.       I actAct with honesty and love.

7.       I move beyond myself for my family, my friends, my community, my world.  Discipline and compassion. 

8.       Let yourself move when you want to move.  Rest when you need to rest.        I work out 7 x per week.  I do abs 3 x per week.

9.Don’t strategize. Prioritize.  

10.     Explore your boundaries.          I get out of my comfort zone. I make the courageous choice.

11.     Fake it till you make it. I can do anything I set my sights on.

12.     Follow the algorithm. Do the work, spend the time, put forth the energy. Let go of the           resultsoutcome.

I accept failure as both a necessity of life and an opportunity to learn.

13.     Bein the moment. Stay here,

14.               I stop and smell the roses, live in the moment, and find something to be grateful for every day.

          I forgive myself. I let every day be a genuine fresh start.Stop wanting from the world, and start sharing with the world.

15.     Right thought, right speech, right action.  In our minds, on our lips, and in our hearts.

I love this quote: “Although no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.”

Here’s to beginning in the here and now.

Be well.

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